We had a very meaningful party yesterday evening. 3 groups of people were there:
a) Couples who have completed TMPC
b) Parents of one of the couple
c) TMPC Volunteer
Beside the food, there was very meaningful sharing sessions. Couples shared of how the courses have helped them, two examples:
- The course led them to face up and talk through tough questions which will otherwise be left unaddressed until the issues explode.
- Couples are comforted to know that the issues they face are not new and unique to them. Everyone around them are faced with similar issues.
We wish them all the best and to the volunteers, thank you for your dedication and hard work!
How time flies....
We are already half way through run 4 and have decided to lock in the dates for Run 5 and 6.
Here are the dates:
TMPC run 5 which is the last one in 2009 (venue: Damansara Perdana)
31st Oct, 7th Nov, 14th Nov, 21st Nov, 28th Nov, 5th Dec
TMPC run 6 which is the first one in 2010 (venue: TBA)
13th Mar, 20th Mar, 27th Mar, 3rd Apr, 10th Apr, 17th Apr
If you would like to register, please contact:
Christina Teoh at 012-824 1215 or email danitina77@gmail.com
I went for the first Alpha TPMC with much mixed emotions and thoughts.
Thoughts were mostly focused on 3 main topics:
1) Have I just signed up for a course that will just keep sprouting bible verses and evangelism at us for 2 hours per session over 7 weeks?? Or just extra nagging from parent-type people?
3) ....can this course actually help?
1) No. Everyone was quite tactful and there were no odd, out-of-place, fiery religious comments. There were no lectures, no nagging (despite some obvious reining in at times :) Neutral is a good word to describe the course.
2) They didn't tell us how to work our relationships! Subjects were brought up and examples of how they were dealt with were shortly discussed - then short private discussion between the 2 of us would commence. It was (again thankfully) not even vaguely like Show and Tell forced sharing. Q&A time was open, and again, neutral.
However, it wasn't smooth sailing all the way - having to discuss some sensitive subjects ahead of time was odd, because there were arguments about things that haven't happened yet! Eg: are our children going to go to private or public schools? Chinese or Govt schools?
In retrospect - I just had quite a lot of fun during those 7 weeks. We are not quite sure what it was exactly that makes me remember it that way as those 7 weeks were peppered with some rather vocal discussions which would have been easier avoided (at that point of time) - but now - about 1.5 years after the course - thinking about TPMC just makes me laugh and bubble over with and enthusiastic
"Yea man - go for it!"
Caution: This is just me. Even my hubby has a different point of view/experience :)
We were introduced to this course by our Mentor Couple, Mr & Mrs Lee Voon Siong. We have been meeting up with them on a monthly or bimonthly basis even before we attended this course.
Initially we were slightly skeptical and a little unsure whether would the course fit us as we are not engaged yet but we did have thoughts of getting married soon. However, Uncle Voon Siong told us that as long as we have marriage on our minds, it would be ok to attend this course. Based on the explanation that Uncle Voon Siong gave about this course, we felt that we would be able to benefit very much from it too.
He also advised us that attending the course earlier would give us more time to grow in the areas that are weak.
Hence, despite the distance and having to travel back and forth to JB on a weekly basis, we figured that this is an investment that is worthwhile since its for the joy and happiness of our marriage in the future. It has also given us a good reason for us to travel up weekly to visit Dennis’ parents and spend some time shopping in KL. He He..
Though the traveling did wear us out in the later part of the course but we certainly felt that we’ve benefited very much from the course. The real life experiences shared by Nick and Sila, the video sofa couples and the live sofa couples has shown us that the problems that we face are not unique to us but common in every relationship. The only difference was that they were more equipped with tools to use when the relationship hits a hard patch.
From this course, we’ve manage to find out the weakness that we face. We’ve also used the tools provided and it certainly proved to be effective. It is not easy since it’s a new discipline for us to learn to put into practice.
We’ve also felt that our meetings with our support couple are more guided and structured since they have now know in exact the weakness of our relationship through the PREPARE questionnaire. Me and my partner concurred that the results are very accurate. With this as a guideline, our support couple are now able to focus directly to our weakness and seek to improve those areas. We are also more conscious of these areas of growth and have since tried to strengthen it in our relationship.
We would indeed certainly agree that this course is a must for all couples who are planning to get married. We’ve never regret attending this course and even with the traveling, we feel that its worth the effort!
Blessings,
Dennis & Joelyn
May 2009
Location: Dream Center, Damansara Utama Methodist Church, Selangor, Malaysia
Date: 27-27 Oct 2009
For more details please contact Alpha at:
Email: info@my.alpha.org
Tel: +603-2698 8200
If you have problem with the above for whatever reason, please write to me lautianchen@gmail.com . I will try to refer you to the correct person.
We organise a Graduation Party at the end of every course. Participants are encouraged to invite their parents or close friends to this party. Objective of the party:
- Celebrate and acknowledge their committment to start well so that their marriage will be strong.
- Recap and review all the lessons learnt and applied over the past 6 weeks.
- Party and makan.
Beside the afternoon sessions where participants go through video based lessons plus exercises together as couples, we also allocate private sessions with counsellors whom we refer to as Support Couples.
As part of the course, every participating couples will be invited to their support couples' home for 3 private one to one session. (dinners thrown in most of the time!!)
We take this very seriously. In order to make sure that we add value into your relationship, the support couples meet together regularly for trainings, updates and learning sessions.
You can also contact TC Lau at lautianchen@gmail.com
Beside the afternoon video based sessions, you will be allocated a support couple who will meet up with both of you in their home to help you work through some issues that you would like to talk about. There will be three of such evening sessions.
Some pix from our 1st TMPC course which we ran in 2008
Light refreshment to greet all participants.
Thereafter its deep diving into the lessons which are serious and fun.
